In the previous article, we talked about emotional abuse and how it affects the victim. Read
on to know more about the telltale 5 signs of emotional abuse so that you can seek help while
there is still time.
Sign 1 – Neglect:
Neglect can prove worse than ignoring.
● Is you friend or partner giving you a cold shoulder, being unfriendly, delaying your
work, rejecting you, stonewalling, or giving you the silent treatment? And all of this,
without you even knowing why they are treating you this way? If yes, you are being
Sign 2 – Domination or Control:
Someone may be dominating or controlling your life. Here are the signs –
● Has someone belittled you? Treated you like a child? They may have tried controlling
your spending too or acted as if they’re superior to you.
● Does this person think you can’t successfully reach your goals because you’re small
and stupid? Everything you try to do has their control over it?
● Have you been under someone’s control for so long that you can barely think for your
own self now?
Sign 3 – Being Degraded:
● Ask yourself are they degrading you? Putting you down in front of others? Do they
use sarcasm as a way to hurt your feelings?
● When you react, they say you’re being too sensitive! They make jokes on you. Most
of the times they negate how you’re feeling!
Sign 4 – Enmeshment or Codependency:
● Do you feel you’re dependent on someone in an unhealthy manner? Is someone
treating you like you’re like a part of them and not as an individual in your own right?
● Has this person ever considered your needs? Or what you wish for? Are you allowed
to act as you wish to act upon life?
Sign 5 – Accusing and Blaming:
● Do you know of someone who struggles to laugh at themselves? They never
apologise and you think they’d never apologise even after someone demands their
apology! Do they blame everything on someone else if something wrong is
● They think they don’t have any shortcomings. But they sure will highlight your
shortcomings and make you apologise when in your perception you weren’t wrong.
● Does this person think whatever they do is the best? And if anyone questions,
criticises or puts them down, they freak out and lose it.
If you or a loved one is a victim of emotional abuse, it is important to recognise it and seek
professional help from a therapist.
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